1.NLP是95%的信息收集和5%的介入。
NLP非常强调感官敏锐度。“要花时间和精力训练自己,在内在真实与外在真实之间,分辨得更加精密。”
2."NLP is an attitude and a methodology, not the trail of techniques it leaves behind"
(NLP是一种态度和方法学,而不是它所衍生出来的技巧。)
NLP中有许多效果宏大的技巧,但NLP并不是技巧的综合,更多的是一种态度,所以,只要掌握了NLP的假设前提,是可以创造出很多技巧出来的。
“对我来说,最大的乐趣是,有人能在学会我所教导的特殊技巧之外,还学到观念、态度和创造技巧的思考过程。”
3.We take the very best of what people do, synthesise it down, make it learnable and share it with each other - and that is what the real future of what NLP will be and its gonna stay that way!”
(我们研究那些卓越者的做法,再把它们综合起来,使它们可以被学会,然后教给别人---而这就是NLP真正的未来而且它会一直是这样。)
4."In High School I flunked psychology and Public Speaking. NLP was my revenge!(在大学里我的心理学和公开演讲课都不及格。而NLP是我的报复!)
NLP创始人经常说,在大学里他学得最不好的课程就是心理学和公开演讲课。而他最后竟以“对著一群心理医生演讲”为业!
5.The reason people have problems is that they have too much time to think."
(人们之所以有各种各样的问题,是因为他们有太多时间思考。)
People change in spite of therapy.(人们即使不接受治疗,也会改变。)
If someone will spend $75 to see a psychiatrist, instead of spending it on a party, that's not mental illness, that's stupidity! If you don't do anything, then of course you're going to be bored and depressed.(如果有人花75块去看心理医生,而不是把这钱用来参加一个聚会,这不叫心理疾病,这叫愚蠢!如果你什么事也不做,那你当然会感到无聊和沮丧。)
6.The best thing about the past is that it's over. The best thing about the future is that it's yet to come. The best thing about the present is that it's here now.
(关于过去最好的是它已经结束了,关于未来最好的是它即将到来,关于现在最好的是它此刻就在这里。)
NLP创始人主张立足当下,并把焦点放在未来,放在解决方案上。反对精神分析过多的探讨一个人的过去,探讨童年经历,探讨不愉快的经历。他说:“你们想知道人为什么会有问题吗?有两个原因,一是你出生了,二是你还活著。所以,现在你知道问题的原因了,就不要再想它了,接著就是想怎么做才能活得更好了。”
7.The greatest personal limitation is to be found not in the things you want to do and can't, but in the things you've never considered doing.
(你最大的限制不是在你想做而做不到的事情中,而是在你从未想过去做的事情中。)
8.How much pleasure and success can you stand?
(你可以承受得了多大的欢乐与成功?)
9.If it’s worth feeling bad about, it’s worthy of amnesia.
(如果一件事情值得让你难过的,那么它就值得被你忘记。)
10.If you say to yourself "It's difficult to get up in the morning", "It's hard to cease smoking", then you are already using hypnotic suggestions on yourself...
(如果你跟自己说“早上起床很难”“戒烟很难”,那么你已经在对自己使用催眠指令了。)
11.You know what ? Certain people think they will fell good if certain things happen... The trick is : you have to feel good for no reason...
(你知道吗?有些人认为,如果发生了某些事情,他们就感到快乐。而窍门是:你必须无缘无故地感到快乐!)有一件事是肯定的,如果你感觉不好,你做出不好的决定;当你感觉好的时候,你做出好的决定。
12.Remember, it's your own body, your own brain. You're not a victim of the universe, you are the universe.
(记住,这是你自己的身体,自己的大脑。你不是这个宇宙的牺牲品,你就是这个宇宙。)你自己的身体和大脑由你自己控制,没有人可以激怒你,只有你自己可以激怒你自己。
13.If you can't enjoy what you have, you can't enjoy more of it.
(如果你不能享受你现在拥有的,那即使给你再多,你也不会感到快乐。)如果你不能对著10块钱开心,那即使你有1万块,你还是开心不起来。
14.Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
(自杀是对一个暂时性问题的永久性解决。)
15.Peoples tell me with absolute certainty they don't trust themselves. Or they tell me that they decided absolutely that they can't make good decision.
(人们总是非常坚定地告诉我他们不信任自己。或者他们告诉我他们坚定地决定他们无法做出好的决定。)大多数来访者的问题中包含了解决方法。
有一个来访者对Richard说:“我没有办法对别人说‘不’。”
Richard说:“真的?那好,我的秘书在那里,你走过去,跟她说‘不’。”
“哦,不,我做不到。”
“看,你刚才说了‘不’,还说了两次。”
You know what, it's impossible for anyone to tell you anything that's a generalisation about themselves that won't destroy itself including that one... (任何一个概论都会自我毁灭。)
16.I have news for you, God made me forgive you but I'm not going to. To me I don't want to be forgiven, I want to do better. See, one people tell me "I'm really sorry". I go "Fuck you", just do better.
(我有事情要告诉你,上帝让我原谅你,但我不打算这样做。对我来说,我不想被原谅,我只想做得更好。如果有人告诉我“我真的很抱歉”。我会说“操你”,去做得更好。)
17.I made the door in my house left-handed, because I'm left handed. When people come in, they push the door the wrong way, and hit themselves on the door. And you know what ? People keep harder and harder to do it ! When something doesn't work, try the same thing harder!
(因为我是左利手的,所以我把我家的门做成适合左利手开的。当我的朋友要进来时,他们以错误的方式开门,并且把自己撞在门上。而且你知道吗?人们越是开不了,越是用力地开!当他们做的事情没有效果,他们以同样的方式更努力的去做)
如果你做的事情没有效果,那么你再怎么坚持,再怎么用力,都是同样没有效果。如果你做的事徒劳无功,做别的事,做任何别的事!
18.在任何关系中都要做你自己,这样你才能交到爱真正的你的朋友,恋人。
在任何关系中都要做你自己,不要为了让别人喜欢上你,就让自己变成另外一个人。永远把最真实的自己呈现出去,如果别人接受你,那很好;如果别人不接受你,你找下一个。这样你才能交到爱真正的你,真正爱你的朋友,恋人。
我并不是说,你完全不须改善自己的缺点。而是说,不要为了讨得某人的喜欢,而去做一些自己根本不喜欢的事情。我听说有一个男孩去追一个女孩,女孩说:“你要我成为你女朋友,可以,不过你必须去学跳舞和弹琴。”那个男孩根本不喜欢这些,不过为了讨得女孩的喜欢,他真的去做了,不但最后他真的受不了了,于是两个人就分手了,分手是正常的,不分那才怪呢!
19.You can't change people by removing something. You must create a void and then fill it...
(仅仅藉由去除某些东西,你无法改变别人。你必须创造一个真空然后再填满它。)
20.You are born with only two fear : fear of falling and fear of loud noise. All the rest is learned. And it's a lot of work!
(你与生俱来的恐惧只有两种:害怕从高处跌落和害怕大声的噪音。其他的一切恐惧都是后天学来的,而且花了很多时间和精力!)
恐惧症可以证明我们学习能力很强。你从一次经历中学会了恐惧,然后以后每次遇到类似的情境,你都会记得要去恐惧!
21.the best way to break sth is to overdo it.
(停止一个模式最好的方法就是过度地用它)当一个人内部有太多声音时,让声音更多更大。
22.如果你和你配偶吵架,你觉得很生气的时候,想想失去他/她那才是最痛苦的。
23.Arguing for three weeks without sex,or mailing the letter(你叫你老婆帮你把信件寄出去,而她没有做,那你可以选择自己把信寄出去,也可以选择和她吵架三个星期,并因此而没得过性生活)
24.If you don't feel good when you are learning,what is going to happen is that you are going to stop learning.
(如果当你在学习的时候你没有感到很开心,那你将停止学习。)
25.失败是因为你有时间限制。
就像在比赛中,只是因为有时间限制你才输了,如果没有时间限制你可能会胜利。
26.The munite you feel muddle,what if you take a deep breath and close your eyes,right now,and drop deep into a trance,and say to yourself the :"fuck it,fuck it,it is not that fucking important",and say to yourself:"when i open my eyes,things are going to be clear and they are going to last for a long time"
(如果你感到迷迷糊糊,你可以深深吸一口气并且闭上眼睛,现在,并且进入深深的催眠状态,然后对自己说:“操,操,这事没***的那么重要”,然后说:“当我睁开眼睛时,事情会变得清晰而且将持续很长一段时间。”)
27.I will take the one,i feel badly for the other people,but i am taking the one,thank you very much.
(如果医生说这种病只有1%的人会康复,我会说,好的,我要做康复的那一个,我为其他人感到抱歉,不过我要做康复的那一个,非常感谢。)如果有一个人会康复,那个人为什么不可以是我?
28.不要想自己哪里紧张,想自己哪里放松然后扩大它。
永远集中于自己最强的一点上,然后让它扩散。
29.尝试所有事情,然后你才知道你真正喜欢做些什么。
30.He who hesitates waits.If a woman rejects you,then all that means is that you save a lot of time. If you spend two hours thinking about whether she is going to reject you,you spend two hours on unpleasant time,if you walk up and she says no,then you have two hours to go out and look for other women. (犹豫的人总是在等待。如果一个女孩拒绝了你,那只能说明你节省了许多时间。如果你花两个小时的时间想著她会不会拒绝你,那你那两个小时就过得很不开心;如果你立刻行动而她拒绝了你,那你有两个小时的时间可以去找另外的女孩。)
31.Shut the fuck up!Fuck!
我发现有两句咒语非常有效:“Shut the fuck up!”和“Fuck!”。当你要静坐或者想让心情平静下来时,你可以一次又一次在念“shut the fuck up”直到你大脑一片空白。如果有人对你说“你做不到的”“这是不可能的”,我要你在大脑里听到一个声音说“Fuck!”
32.Do it and find out!
(去做,然后你就知道结果!)
不要坐在那里想“他/她会不会拒绝我?”“他/她适不适合我?”“这么做有没有效果?”。直接去做,然后你就会知道结果!
33.我们不看事情出什么错,应该修理它,你就是单纯地想著有什么方法可以使生活变得更丰富,这是可能的事,你问自己:“做些什么会是有趣的,能怎么做会变得更有意思?”“我可以为自己发明些什么新能力和新可能性?”“我如何真正地把事情做得真正妙绝至极?”
34.If you decide that you want to do something, fine, but getting serious about it will only blind you and get in your way.
(如果你决定你要做某事,很好,但过于认真只会阻碍你,让你看不清形势。)任何时候你发现自己过于严肃,我要你严肃地笑起来!
35.When you obsess about things,you dont have choices.One of the finest humans' emotions i think is when you look at sth and you go:"hur,who cares?i can take it,i can leave it.it doesnt matter,because it means not no not yes,but no now may be yes later如果你紧抓著一件东西不放,你便失去了其它选择。我认为,人类最好的情绪之一是,当你看著一件东西,然后你说:“哼,谁在乎它?我可以要它,可以不理它。这没关系,因为这非‘不’亦非‘是’,但是现在‘不’,或许以后‘是’。”
36.The experiences in your life which have been the most beneficial to you in the long run, and which provide the basis of your being able to have pleasure, satisfaction, enjoyment, and happiness, were not necessarily utterly enjoyable at the time they occurred. Sometimes some of those experiences were as frustrating as they could be. Sometimes they were confusing. Sometimes they were fun in and of themselves. Those experiences are not mutually exclusive.
(长久来说对你最有利的,能够成为你欢愉,满足,享受和快乐的基础的人生经历,当他们发生时,并不一定是很令人享受的。有时候这些经历会是非常令人沮丧的。有时候它们是令人迷惑的。有时候它们是好玩的。这些经验并非互不相容的。)
37.Wealth is not just money,wealth comes in many forms.It means that every moment you spend with your family is that much more special.
(财富不仅仅是金钱,财富有许多种形式。也就是说,当你和家人朋友在一起的每个时刻,都是非常珍贵的!比金钱更珍贵!)
38.The only rule is that you can make new rules!
(惟一的规则就是你可以制定新的规则!)惟一的规则就是没有规则!
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